Topic : Marriage: Sexual Relations (Strictly for person between 18 and above) 18+

Question: 
Dear Brothrer in Islam, As Salam O Alikum, my question is in regards to the same topic that has been asked so many times, and in particular refers to Oral Sex between husband and wife, is it permissible for a man to lick, suck and touch his wife's vagina? and similarly can a woman do the same, i.e. lick or suck her husband's penis, however, as you stated it is permisible a long as it is not used as a means to avoid having intercourse, and is allowed if it provokes sexual desires within the couple, and is beneficiary in terms of satisfaction, however my question is, what happens if either the wife or the husband ejeculates, i.e. the sperm goes in the wife's mouth, is it haram then? or what if she swallows it? and similarly what if the wife gets an orgasm whilst the husband is sucking her vagina and it goes in his mouth? is it considered haram? Please forgive my use of foul language, but please note that since we reside in a non muslim country, we have often had arguements, and come across muslim friends who state oral sex as permissible, but then again there are scholar who argue, saying that it is not quite permissible if either the lubricatnt or the sperm goes in the wifes mouth or the vaginal releases after or before orgasm goes in the husband's mouth as this is considered unclean and nifas, please kindly provide specific answer to my question with ahadiths and evidence from both Quran and the Hadiths books, as this will allow not only us, but other muslim couples with the knowledge as to what they are doing is permissible or not, and personally i know quite a few friends who are unmarried and believe that it is permissible, and would do oral sex after marriage, and would like to know if the ejacualtion of sperm or lubricant or vaginal releases reaching ones mouth is permissible or not jazak ALLAH khair for the answer in advance may this question be of benefit to all the the other brothers and sisters in Islam, and may ALLAH give us the taufeek and hidayah to do the rightious deeds, Ameen Wassalam..

Answer:  Bismillahir-RaHmanir-RaHeem. It is permissible. Allah Almighty says in Holy Quran chapter number 2 Al-Baqarah, verse number 222 and 223: -"They ask thee concerning womens courses. Say: They are a hurt and a pollution: So keep away from women in their courses, and do not approach them until they are clean. But when they have purified themselves, ye may approach them as ordained for you by Allah. For Allah loves those who turn to Him constantly; and He loves those who keep themselves pure and clean. -Your wives are as a tilth unto you; so approach your tilth when or how ye will; but do some good act for your souls beforehand; and fear God. And know that ye are to meet Him (in the Hereafter), and give (these) good tidings to those who believe.".(Holy Quran 2:222 and 223) Based on this, all acts that aim at satisfying and pleasing the spouses are allowable so long as two things are avoided, that is anal sex and having sex with a wife while she is still in her menstruation or post partum bleeding. A husband/wife can satisfy her wife/husband through other avenues. A wife can masturbate her husband; similarly a husband is perfectly justified in satisfying his wife through other avenues; he could very well masturbate her; if he were to do this, he is working within the perfect limits of Islam. A person masturbating on himself/herself is not allowed in Islam except in dire necessity where one fears falling into adultery; marriage is intended in Islam to be a shield against that. So being married, you should never be forced into this option. Eminent Muslim scholar Sheikh Yusuf Al-Qaradawi: "The Qur'an emphasizes the spiritual objectives of marriage, making them the foundations of marital life. These objectives are realized in the peace of mind which comes through wholesome sexual experience with the spouse whom one loves, in the enlargement of the circle of love and affection between the two families united through marriage, and in the nurturing of affection and tenderness among the children under the loving care of their parents. These are the objectives mentioned by Allah in the verse that reads: "And among His signs is that He created for you mates from among yourselves, that you may dwell with them in tranquility, and He has put love and mercy between you. Indeed, in this are signs for those who reflect." (Ar-Rum: 21) At the same time, the Qur'an does not neglect the sensual aspect and the physical relationship between husband and wife. It guides human beings to the best path, fulfilling the demands of the sexual urge while avoiding harmful or deviant practices." Allah, Exalted and Glorified be He, says: "And who guard their modesty, save from their wives or the slaves, that I heir right hands possess, for then they are not blameworthy, but Who so craveth beyond that, such are transgressors." (Al-Mu'minun: 5-7)" In the light of this, scholars maintain that the husband is allowed to enjoy his wife through any means of enjoyment except anal sex, for that is forbidden. May Allah guide us all to the straight path! Wassalam and Allah Almighty knows best.

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Ruling on celebrating Valentine’s Day

What is the ruling on Valentine’s Day?


Praise be to Allaah.

Firstly: 

Valentine’s Day is a jaahili Roman festival, which continued to be celebrated until after the Romans became Christian. This festival became connected with the saint known as Valentine who was sentenced to death on 14 February 270 CE. The kuffaar still celebrate this festival, during which immorality and evil are practised widely.

Secondly: 

It is not permissible for a Muslim to celebrate any of the festivals of the kuffaar, because festivals come under the heading of shar’i issues which are to be based on the sound texts. 

Shaykh al-Islam Ibn Taymiyah (may Allaah have mercy on him) said: Festivals are part of sharee’ah, clear way and rituals of which Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning): 

“To each among you, We have prescribed a law and a clear way”

[al-Maa’idah 5:48] 

“For every nation We have ordained religious ceremonies which they must follow”

[al-Hajj 22:67] 

-- such as the qiblah (direction faced in prayer), prayer and fasting. There is no difference between their participating in the festival and their participating in all other rituals. Joining in fully with the festival is joining in with kufr, and joining in with some of its minor issues is joining in with some of the branches of kufr. Indeed, festivals are one of the most unique features that distinguish various religions and among their most prominent symbols, so joining in with them is joining in with the most characteristic and prominent symbols of kufr. No doubt joining in with this may lead to complete kufr.                                                 

Partially joining in, at the very least, is disobedience and sin. This was indicated by the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) when he said: “Every people has its festival and this is our festival.” This is worse than joining them in wearing the zinaar (a garment that was worn only by ahl al-dhimmah) and other characteristics of theirs, for those characteristics are man-made and are not part of their religion, rather the purpose behind them is simply to distinguish between a Muslim and a kaafir. As for the festival and its rituals, this is part of the religion which is cursed along with its followers, so joining in with it is joining in with something that is a cause of incurring the wrath and punishment of Allaah. End quote from Iqtida’ al-Siraat al-Mustaqeem (1/207). 

He also said (may Allaah have mercy on him): It is not permissible for the Muslims to imitate them in anything that is uniquely a part of their festivals, whether it be food, clothing, bathing, lighting fires, refraining from a regular habit, doing acts of worship or anything else. It is not permissible to give a feast or to give gifts, or to sell anything that will help them to do that for that purpose, or to allow children and others to play games that are part of the festivals, or to wear one’s adornments. 

To conclude: the Mulsims should not do any of their rituals at the time of their festivals; rather the day of their festival should be like any other day for the Muslims. The Muslims should not do anything specific in imitation of them. End quote from Majmoo al-Fataawa (25/329). 

Al-Haafiz al-Dhahabi (may Allaah have mercy on him) said: If the Christians have a festival, and the Jews have a festival, it is only for them, so no Muslim should join them in that, just as no Muslim should join them in their religion or their direction of prayer. End quote from Tashabbuh al-Khasees bi Ahl al-Khamees, published in Majallat al-Hikmah (4/193) 

The hadeeth to which Shaykh al-Islam Ibn Taymiyah referred was narrated by al-Bukhaari (952) and Muslim (892) from ‘Aa’ishah (may Allaah be pleased with her) who said: Abu Bakr came in and there were two young girls of the Ansaar with me who were singing about what had happened to the Ansaar on the day of Bu’aath. She said: And they were not (professional) singing girls. Abu Bakr said: “Musical instruments of the shaytaan in the house of the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him)?!” and that was on the day of Eid. The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “O Abu Bakr, every people has a festival and this is our festival.” 

Abu Dawood (1134) narrated that Anas (may Allaah be pleased with him) said: When the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) came to Madeenah, they had two days when they would play. He said: “What are these two days?” They said: “We used to play on these days during the Jaahiliyyah.” The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Allaah has given you instead of them two days that are better than them: the day of al-Adha and the day of al-Fitr.” This hadeeth was classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh Abi Dawood. 

This indicates that festivals are among the characteristics by which nations are distinguished, and it is not permissible to celebrate the festivals of the ignorant and the mushrikeen (polytheists). 

The scholars have issued fatwas stating that it is haraam to celebrate Valentine’s Day. 

1 –Shaykh Ibn ‘Uthaymeen (may Allaah have mercy on him) was asked: 

In recent times the celebration of Valentine’s Day has become widespread, especially among female students. It is a Christian festival where people dress completely in red, including clothes and shoes, and they exchange red flowers. We hope that you can explain the ruling on celebrating this festival, and what your advice is to Muslims with regard to such matters; may Allaah bless you and take care of you. 

He replied: 

Celebrating Valentine’s Day is not permissible for a number of reasons.  

1-     It is an innovated festival for which there is no basis in Islam.

2-     It promotes love and infatuation.

3-     It calls for hearts to be preoccupied with foolish matters that are contrary to the way of the righteous salaf (may Allaah be pleased with them). 

It is not permissible on this day to do any of the things that are characteristic of this festival, whether that has to do with food, drinks, clothing, exchanging gifts or anything else. 

The Muslim should be proud of his religion and should not be a weak character who follows every Tom, Dick and Harry. I ask Allaah to protect the Muslims from all temptations, visible and invisible, and to protect us and guide us. 

End quote from Majmoo’ Fataawa al-Shaykh Ibn ‘Uthaymeen (16/199) 

2 – The Standing Committee was asked: Some people celebrate Valentine’s Day on the fourteenth of February every year. They exchange gifts of red roses and wear red clothes and congratulate one another. Some bakeries make red coloured sweets and draw hearts on them, and some stores advertise products that are especially for this day. What is your opinion on the following: 

1-     Celebrating this day

2-     Buying things from the stores on this day

3-     Storekeepers who are not celebrating it selling things that may be given as gifts to people who are celebrating it? 

They replied: 

The clear evidence of the Qur’aan and Sunnah – and the consensus of the early generations of this ummah – indicates that there are only two festivals in Islam: Eid al-Fitr and Eid al-Adha. Any other festivals that have to do with a person, a group, an event or anything else are innovated festivals, which it is not permissible for Muslims to observe, approve of or express joy on those occasions, or to help others to celebrate them in any way, because that is transgressing the sacred limits of Allaah, and whoever transgresses the sacred limits of Allaah has wronged himself. If the fabricated festival is also a festival of the kuffaar, then the sin is even greater, because this is imitating them and it is a kind of taking them as close friends, and Allaah has forbidden the believers to imitate them and take them as close friends in His Holy Book. And it is proven that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Whoever imitates a people is one of them.” Valentine’s Day comes under this heading because it is an idolatrous Christian festival, so it is not permissible for a Muslim who believes in Allaah and the Last Day to observe it or approve of it or congratulate people on it. Rather he has to ignore it and avoid it, in obedience to Allaah and His Messenger, and so as to keep away from the causes that incur the wrath and punishment of Allaah. It is also haraam for the Muslim to help people to celebrate this or any other haraam festival by supplying any kind of food or drink, or buying or selling or manufacturing or giving or advertising etc., because all of that is cooperating in sin and transgression and is disobedience towards Allaah and His Messenger (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him). Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning): 

“Help you one another in Al‑Birr and At‑Taqwa (virtue, righteousness and piety); but do not help one another in sin and transgression. And fear Allaah. Verily, Allaah is Severe in punishment”

[al-Maa’idah 5:2] 

The Muslim must adhere to the Book of Allaah and the Sunnah in all his affairs, especially at times of fitnah when evil is widespread. He should be smart and avoid falling into the misguidance of those who have earned Allaah’s anger and who have gone astray, and the evildoers who have no fear of Allaah and who do not have any pride in being Muslims. The Muslim must turn to Allaah and seek His guidance and remain steadfast in following it, for there is no Guide except Allaah and no one can make a person steadfast but Him. And Allaah is the source of strength. May Allaah send blessings and peace upon our Prophet Muhammad and his family and companions. End quote. 

3 – Shaykh Ibn Jibreen (may Allaah preserve him) was asked: 

Among our young men and women it has become common to celebrate Valentine’s Day, which is named after a saint who is venerated by the Christians, who celebrate it every year on February 14, when they exchange gifts and red roses, and they wear red clothes. What is the ruling on celebrating this day and exchanging gifts? 

He replied: 

Firstly: it is not permissible to celebrate these innovated festivals, because it is an innovation for which there is no basis in Islam. It comes under the heading of the hadeeth of ‘Aa’ishah (may Allaah be pleased with her), according to which the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Whoever introduces anything into this matter of ours that is not part of it will have it rejected.” 

Secondly: it involves imitating the kuffaar and copying them by venerating that which they venerate and respecting their festivals and rituals, and imitating them in something that is part of their religion. In the hadeeth it says: “Whoever imitates a people is one of them.” 

Thirdly: it results in evils and haraam things such as wasting time, singing, music, extravagance, unveiling, wanton display, men mixing with women, women appearing before men other than their mahrams, and other haraam things, or things that are a means that leads to immorality. That cannot be excused by the claim that this is a kind of entertainment and fun. The one who is sincere towards himself should keep away from sin and the means that lead to it. 

And he said: 

Based on this, it is not permissible to sell these gifts and roses, if it is known that the purchaser celebrates these festivals or will give these things as gifts on those days, so that the seller will not be a partner of the one who does those innovations. And Allaah knows best. End quote. 

And Allaah knows best.

Parent/Children Agreement On Marriage

Parent/Children Agreement On Marriage

Praise be to Allaah.  

The basic principle is that one of the conditions of marriage is the consent of both parties, because of the hadeeth of Abu Hurayrah (may Allaah be pleased with him) which says that the Prophet said: “A virgin cannot be married until her consent has been sought and a previously-married woman cannot be married until she has been consulted.” They said, “O Messenger of Allaah, what is her consent?” He said, “If she remains silent.” 

(Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 5136; Muslim, 1419) 

Consent is essential in the case of the husband, and also in the case of the wife. The parents have no right to force their son or their daughter to marry someone they do not want. 

But if the person whom the parents have chosen is righteous, then the child, whether male or female, should obey the parents in that, because the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “If there comes to you one with whose religious commitment and character you are pleased, then marry (your daughter) to him.” (Narrated by al-Tirmidhi, 1084; Ibn Maajah, 1967. Classed as hasan by al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Tirmidhi, 865). 

But if obeying them will lead to divorce later on, then the child does not have to obey them in that, because consent is the foundation of the marital relationship, and this consent must be in accordance with sharee’ah, which is approval of the one who is religiously committed and of good character. 

Shaykh Dr. Khaalid al-Mushayqih 

A child is not considered to be disobedient or sinful if he does not obey his parents in this regard. 

Shaykh al-Islam Ibn Taymiyah said: 

The parents do not have the right to force their child to marry someone whom he does not want, and if he refuses he is not being disobedient towards them, as is the case when he does not eat what he does not want.  

Al-Ikhtiyaaraat, 344.

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THE RIGHT HIJAAB

THE RIGHT HIJAAB

Praise be to Allaah.

Shaykh al-Albaani (may Allaah have mercy on him) said:

The conditions of hijaab:

Firstly:

(It should cover all the body apart from whatever has been exempted).

Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):

“O Prophet! Tell your wives and your daughters and the women of the believers to draw their cloaks (veils) all over their bodies (i.e. screen themselves completely except the eyes or one eye to see the way). That will be better, that they should be known (as free respectable women) so as not to be annoyed. And Allaah is Ever Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful.”

This aayah clearly states that it is obligatory to cover all of a woman’s beauty and adornments and not to display any part of that before non-mahram men (“strangers”) except for whatever appears unintentionally, in which case there will be no sin on them if they hasten to cover it up.

Al-Haafiz ibn Katheer said in his Tafseer:

This means that they should not display any part of their adornment to non-mahrams, apart from that which it is impossible to conceal. Ibn Mas’ood said: such as the cloak and robe, i.e., what the women of the Arabs used to wear, an outer garment which covered whatever the woman was wearing, except for whatever appeared from beneath the outer garment. There is no sin on a woman with regard to this because it is impossible to conceal it.

Secondly

(it should not be an adornment in and of itself).

Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):

“… and not to show off their adornment…” [al-Noor 24:31]. The general meaning of this phrase includes the outer garment, because if it is decorated it will attract men’s attention to her. This is supported by the aayah in Soorat al-Ahzaab (interpretation of the meaning):

“And stay in your houses, and do not display yourselves like that of the times of ignorance” [al-Ahzaab 33:33]. It is also supported by the hadeeth in which the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “There are three, do not ask me about them: a man who leaves the jamaa’ah, disobeys his leader and dies disobedient; a female or male slave who runs away then dies; and a woman whose husband is absent and left her with everything she needs, and after he left she made a wanton display of herself. Do not ask about them.”

(Narrated by al-Haakim, 1/119; Ahmad, 6/19; from the hadeeth of Faddaalah bint ‘Ubayd. Its isnaad is saheeh and it is in al-Adab al-Mufrad).

Thirdly:

(It should be thick and not transparent or “see-thru”)

- because it cannot cover properly otherwise. Transparent or see-thru clothing makes a woman more tempting and beautiful. Concerning this the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “During the last days of my ummah there will be women who are clothed but naked, with something on their heads like the humps of camels. Curse them, for they are cursed.” Another hadeeth adds: “They will not enter Paradise or even smell its fragrance, although its fragrance can be detected from such and such a distance.”

(Narrated by Muslim from the report of Abu Hurayrah).

Ibn ‘Abd al-Barr said: what the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) meant was women who wear clothes made of light fabric which describes and does not cover. They are clothed in name but naked in reality.

Transmitted by al-Suyooti in Tanweer al-Hawaalik, 3/103.

Fourthly:

(It should be loose, not tight so that it describes any part of the body).

The purpose of clothing is to prevent fitnah (temptation), and this can only be achieved if clothes are wide and loose. Tight clothes, even if they conceal the colour of the skin, still describe the size and shape of the body or part of it, and create a vivid image in the minds of men. The corruption or invitation to corruption that is inherent in that is quite obvious. So the clothes must be wide. Usaamah ibn Zayd said: “The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) gave me a thick Egyptian garment that was one of the gifts given to him by Duhyat al-Kalbi, and I gave it to my wife to wear. He said, ‘Why do I not see you wearing that Egyptian garment?’ I said, ‘I gave it to my wife to wear.’ He said, ‘Tell her to wear a gown underneath it, for I am afraid that it may describe the size of her bones.’” (Narrated by al-Diyaa’ al-Maqdisi in al-Ahaadeeth al-Mukhtaarah, 1/442, and by Ahmad and al-Bayhaqi, with a hasan isnaad).

Fifthly:

(It should not be perfumed with bakhoor or fragrance)

There are many ahaadeeth which forbid women to wear perfume when they go out of their houses. We will quote here some of those which have saheeh isnaads:

Abu Moosa al-Ash’ari said: the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Any woman who puts on perfume then passes by people so that they can smell her fragrance, is an adulteress.”

Zaynab al-Thaqafiyyah reported that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “If any one of you (women) goes out to the mosque, let her not touch any perfume.”

Abu Hurayrah said: the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Any woman who has scented herself with bakhoor (incense), let her not attend ‘Ishaa’ prayers with us.”

Moosa ibn Yassaar said that a woman passed by Abu Hurayrah and her scent was overpowering. He said, “O female slave of al-Jabbaar, are you going to the mosque?” She said, “Yes,” He said, “And have you put on perfume because of that?” She said, “Yes.” He said, “Go back and wash yourself, for I heard the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) say: ‘If a woman comes out to the mosque and her fragrance is overpowering, Allaah will not accept any prayer from her until she goes home and washes herself.’”

These ahaadeeth are general in implication. Just as the prohibition covers perfume applied to the body, it also covers perfume applied to the clothes, especially in the third hadeeth, where bakhoor (incense) is mentioned, because incense is used specifically to perfume the clothes.

The reason for this prohibition is quite clear, which is that women’s fragrance may cause undue provocation of desires. The scholars also included other things under this heading of things to be avoided by women who want to go to the mosque, such as beautiful clothes, jewellery that can be seen, excessive adornments and mingling with men. See Fath al-Baari, 2/279.

Ibn Daqeeq al-‘Eed said:

This indicates that it is forbidden for a woman who wants to go to the mosque to wear perfume, because this causes provocation of men’s desires. This was reported by al-Manaawi in Fayd al-Qadeer, in the commentary on the first hadeeth of Abu Hurayrah quoted above.

Sixthly:

(It should not resemble the clothing of men)

It was reported in the saheeh ahaadeeth that a woman who imitates men in dress or in other ways is cursed. There follow some of the ahaadeeth that we know:

Abu Hurayrah said: “The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) cursed the man who wears women’s clothes, and the woman who wears men’s clothes.”

‘Abd-Allaah ibn ‘Amr said: I heard the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) say: ‘They are not part of us, the women who imitate men and the men who imitate women.’”

Ibn ‘Abbaas said: “The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) cursed effeminate men and masculine women. He said, ‘Throw them out of your houses.’” He said: “The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) expelled So and so, and ‘Umar expelled So and so.” According to another version: “The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) cursed men who imitate women and women who imitate men.”

‘Abd-Allaah ibn ‘Amr said: “The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: ‘There are three who will not enter Paradise and Allaah will not even look at them on the Day of Resurrection: one who disobeys his parents, a woman who imitates men, and the duyooth (cuckold, weak man who feels no jealousy over his womenfolk).”

Ibn Abi Maleekah – whose name was ‘Abd-Allaah ibn ‘Ubayd-Allaah – said: “It was said to ‘Aa’ishah (may Allaah be pleased with her), ‘What if a woman wears (men’s) sandals?’ She said: ‘The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) cursed women who act like men.’”

These ahaadeeth clearly indicate that it is forbidden for women to imitate men and vice versa, This usually includes dress and other matters, apart from the first hadeeth quoted above, which refers to dress only.

Abu Dawood said, in Masaa’il al-Imaam Ahmad (p. 261): “I heard Ahmad being asked about a man who dresses his slave woman in a tunic. He said, ‘Do not clothe her in men’s garments, do not make her look like a man.” Abu Dawood said: “I said to Ahmad, Can he give her bachelor sandals to wear? He said, No, unless she wears them to do wudoo’. I said, What about for beauty? He said, No. I said, Can he cut her hair short? He said, No.”

Seventhly:

(It should not resemble the dress of kaafir women).

It is stated in sharee’ah that Muslims, men and women alike, should not resemble or imitate the kuffaar with regard to worship, festivals or clothing that is specific to them. This is an important Islamic principle which nowadays, unfortunately, is neglected by many Muslims, even those who care about religion and calling others to Islam. This is due either to ignorance of their religion, or because they are following their own whims and desires, or because of deviation, combined with modern customs and imitation of kaafir Europe. This was one of the causes of the Muslims’ decline and weakness, which enabled the foreigners to overwhelm and colonize them. “…Verily, Allaah will not change the condition of a people as long as they do not change their state themselves …” [al-Ra’d 13:11 – interpretation of the meaning]. If only they knew.

It should be known that there is a great deal of saheeh evidence for these important rules in the Qur’aan and Sunnah, and that the evidence in the Qur’aan is elaborated upon in the Sunnah, as is always the case.

Eighthly:

(It should not be a garment of fame and vanity).

Ibn ‘Umar (may Allaah be pleased with him) said: “The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: ‘Whoever wears a garment of fame and vanity in this world, Allaah will clothe him in a garment of humiliation on the Day of Resurrection, then He will cause Fire to flame up around him.’”

(Hijaab al-Mar’ah al-Muslimah, p. 54-67).

And Allaah knows best.

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The Race for "Likes" and The Race for "Goods".

                           


                                       BISMILLAAHIR-RAHMOONIR-ROHEEM
             It was a breezy evening when I decided to do what I do best- visiting friends to discuss and have fun. I decided to visit a female friends whom I had seen several years back to discuss about life generally. However, the discussion was becoming more and more interesting that I began to look at some pictures on her phone and on seeing one which I liked, I told her "I like this  picture" ( no string attached, only wanted to appreciate something good), but the response she gave me brought shock to me as she said, "go and like it on my Facebook".

With this I began to wonder what she meant by that. It was only fewminutes after that the whole shock descended on me as her sister came towards us, shouting at the top of her voice like someone who just won a Viosa Lottery ticket or probably one who won a sum of One million naira after playing bet on several occasions without a win. I was so surprised on realizing the reason for such joyous display as she told us she has gotten over 350 likes, therefore breaking her sister (my friend)'s record of 300 likes. It was at this moment that I knew full well that the race for facebook likes has made our ladies "mad".

TO BE CONTINUED.......................................

HIJAAB: My Pride, Their Headache.

                                             

                                                       Bismillaahir-Rahmoonir-Roheem

                                  Some years ago, a non-Muslim friend and I were discussing about the rampant, disheartening and immoral dress code among some youth ladies in our area. Unconsciously, this non-Muslim friend of mine frankly confessed that he did have great phobia to flirt with an 'hijaab sister', let alone touch any part of her body, unlike his usual practice with any other lady/ladies. Immediately, I asked why. Do you know his response?

He said, "Anytime I see hijab sisters, I respect their beauty, virtue and also hold them in high esteem without any filth or leverage." This is the major threat your hijab creates for demonic/ungodly men around you.

It is a known fact that Muslim ladies in hijab (a covering that conceals/covers the hair and neck of a women) are not only pretty, but are also respected and protected from molestation in any socio-cultural environment they find themselves.

          Hijaab should neither be a decoration nor a curse for me as a Muslim lady. I should always be proud of my head covers anywhere I am. Some non-Muslims may attack me with names like SLAVES, UNCIVILIZED and UNSOCIALIZED FOLK. They may even go to the extent of calling me a fundamentalist. Of course, I'm proud to be a fundamentalist - who knows and plans to know much more about my religion - Al Islaam. That is what Islamic fundamentalist is.
          However, do I really care if I'm addressed as an uncivilized, outdated, 'Old-school', bucolic or out-fashioned lady just because I flaunt my hijaab in a way that pleases Allah? These folks calling kettles black, do dress half-naked, package or pack in jean-trousers or jumpy tight skirts with back parting.

          These ladies with animalistic orientation even sit in front pews during worship, thereby tempting their pulpits to remain dumb and silent. I their own thinking, I guess this is what thney described as a modern civilisation. Oh my God! What an irony of the human society we live in!!
In addition, to anyone who has seen the common portraits of the virgin Mary, one will notice that Mary the mother of Jesus had her head covered. Do you call that a coincidence?
          
   Have you ever seen a catholic sister walk around bare-headed? Why does she cover her head?  Wallaahi, Muslim ladies should at all times be proud of their hijaab. You are beautiful in the coverings Maa Shaa Allaah.
Why should I need to be proud of my HIJAAB?     Both the Qur'an and the Bible command ladies to always cover their heads.

1.            Corinthians 11:5-6 say:
                     "But every WOMAN that prayeth or prophesieth with HER HEAD UNCOVERED   dishonured her head......... For if the woman be not covered, let her be shorn: but if it be a shame for a woman to be shorn or shaven, LET HER BE  |COVERED."

Similarly, In Suuratun-Nuur, Verse 32, Allah says:
                     "And say to the believing women that.............. and draw their head-covering over their bossoms, and that they disclose not their beauty..."



Also, Allaah instructs Prophet Muhammad in Qur'an 33:60 to educate his wives and the wives of the believers the beauty of hijaab.

"O Prophet! Tell thy wives and thy daughters and the women of the believers that they should draw close to them portions of their loose outer coverings. That is nearer that they may thus be distinguished and not molested"

        However, some Muslim and non-Muslim ladies do decieve themselves. HOW? These set of ladies only cover their heads fully or partially with scarves whenever they are in  mosques or churches respectively. This is hypocrisay, sisters! Let's call a spade a spade. On a final note, permit me to share this puzzle with you.


"I have two (2) POP sweets, one is fully wrapped while the other has been unwrapped. As an individual, if I give you the opportunity to choose either of the sweets, which one will you go for? and Why?






Extracted from MSSN's Magazine (Al-Faaeedah - The Benefit)

The Prophet and The Sahaabahs

                                       Bismillaahir-Rahmoonir-Roheem


Muhammad  is not the father of any men among you, but he is Allaah
 Rasool and the seal of all Arnbiyaa (after whom there shall neyer come
another Nabi). Allaah has knowledge of all things. {Surah Ahzaab, verse 40)

0 Nabi! We have certainly sent you as a witness (who will bear testimony
against the Kufhar of all nations on [he Day of Qlyaamah), a carrier of good
news (to the Mukineen that they will enjoy Jannah), a Warner (to the Kuflaar that
they will suffer the punishment of Jahannam if they do not accept Imaan) and as
a caller to Allaah by His command and an illuminating lantern (who lit up
the world filled with the darkness of kufi and Shirk with the light of Imaan and
also produced the Sahabah a guiding stars to guide people after him).
{Surah Ahzaab, verses 45.46)


(1) Targheeb wat Tarheeb Vol. 1 Pg. 44.
(2) Tabraani and Abu Nu'aym in "Hilya"
(3) Kanzul Ummaal Vol. 1 Pg. 47.
(4) Muslim.
(5) Daar Qutni.
(6) Sajzi.



THE LIVES OF THE SAHABAH (Vol-I) 49


Verily We have sent you (0 Rasulullaah w) as a witness (to testify to the
actions of people on the Day of Qiyaamah), a carrier of good news (to the
Mumineen) and a warner (to the Kuffaar) so that you (O people) believe in Allaah, believe in His Rasool, assist Him (His Deen), revere Him and glorify Him
morning and evening. {Surah Fatah, verses 8,9)

Undoubtedly We have sent you (0 Muhammad ) with the truth, as a carrier
of good news (to those who believe you) and as a warner (to those who refuse to
believe you). You will not be questioned about the people of the Blaze (about
those in the fire of Jahannam. Allaah shall not ask you why they did not
believe because your duty is to give them the message and not to force them to
believe).{Surah Baqara, verse 1 19)


Verily We have sent you (0 Rasuul) with the truth, as a carrier of good
news (to the Mulmineen) and (as) a warner (to the Kuffaar). (Your duty is nothing
strange to people because) A Warner (who cautioned people about the
consequences of kufr) passed in every nation.{Surah Faatir, verse 24)

We have sent you (0--  Muhammad to the whole of mankind only as a carrier
of good news and a warner (and not as one who has to force people to accept
Imaan). However, most people (the KufXaaar) do not know (that you are Allaah true Nabi)

{Surah Saba, verse 28)

We have sent you (0 Rasulullaah) only as a carrier of good news (to the
Mu'mineen) and a warner (to the Kuffaaar).{Surah Furqoon, verse 5-6 )
We have sent you (0 Muhammad w) as a mercy to the universe (to show
mercy towards mankind, jinn and creation at large by guiding them to the path
ofsalvation  {SurahA mbiyaa, verse 107)

Source: Hayaatus-Sahaabah

Some useful islamic words and their meaning.

This post contains very informative knowledge. Must read and share for sadqate jariah

1-Akhi - Brother
2-Ukhti - Sister
3-JazakAllah khair - May Allah give you Ajar/Sawab for your deed.
4-MashAllah - As God has willed.
5-HayakAllah - May Allah give you life.
6-BarakAllahu Feek - May Allah put baraka in what you are doing.
7-wa feeka barakallahu - and May Allah bless you. (in response to Barakallahu Feek)
8-Wa iyyakum - And to you
9-Alhamdu lillah - Praise be to Allah
10-Allah - God
11-Allahu Akbar - Allah is Most Great
12-Amanah - Trust
13-Assalamu Alaikum - Peace be upon you--the "official" Islamic greeting.
14-Assalamu Alaikum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh - "Peace and the Mercy and Blessings of God be upon you" Extended form of the above.
16-Astaghfir Allah - I seek forgiveness from Allah (used when mentioning something that goes against the standards of Islam)
17-Ayah/Ayat - Qur'anic verse
18-Bid`ah - Innovation, addition to the religion's essentials
19-Bukhari - One of the most noted compilers of hadith. His collection is 20-known as Sahih Bukhari
21-Bismillah ar-Rahman ar-Rahim - In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, Most Merciful
23-Da'wa - Invitation (for humankind to Islam)
24-Du`aa - Supplication
25-Eid - Islamic holiday
26-Fatwa - Islamic legal ruling
27-Fiqh - Islamic law as interpreted by scholars
28-Fitnah - Corruption and disorder, also temptation
29-Hadith - A report of a saying or deed of the Prophet
30-Haj - Pilgrimage
31-Halal - Allowed (per Islamic law)
32-Haram - Forbidden (per Islamic law)
33-Hazrat/Hadrat - Honorable
34-Hijab - Modest way of behavior and dress (including head scarf for women)
35-Imam - Leader
36-Iman - Faith
37-In Shaa Allah - If God wills. (Used when talking about a future event)
38-Injeel - The scripture sent down to Prophet Issa (Jesus)
39-Isnad - Chain of transmitters, the list of people who successively narrated a given hadith
40-Jannah - Paradise
41-Jazakallah Khair - May God grant you what is good. (Often used instead of "Thank you")
42-Jihad - Striving for Islam, whether by peaceful or violent means
43-Jinn - Unseen beings, who, like humans, are given the power to choose between right and wrong
44-Kafir - One who denies the truth. Literally, one who "covers" the truth (sometimes applied to non-Muslims).
45-Khalifah - Caliph: Leader of Muslim nation
46-Khilafah - Caliphate
47-Khutba - Sermon
48-Kufr - Denial of the Truth, rebellion against God
49-La Ilaha Illa Allah - There is no deity but God
50-Ma Shaa Allah - What God has willed! (Usually used to express wonder at Allah's creation)
51-Madhhab - School of jurisprudential thought
52-Makruh - Detested, but not forbidden (per Islamic law)
53-Mandoub - Recommended, but not required (per Islamic law)
54-Mubah - Neither forbidden nor commended. Neutral (per Islamic law)
55-Mushrik - One who commits Shirk
56-Muslim - One who submits to Allah and is a follower of Islam; also, name of one of the most notable hadith scholars. His collection is known as Sahih Muslim
57-Nabi - Prophet
58-Qur'an - The Words of Allah conveyed to us by the Prophet
PBUH - Peace Be Upon Him. Same as SAW
59-RAA - (Radia Allahu Anhu/Anha.) May Allah be please with him/her
60-Ra-sool - Messenger (Prophet to whom a scripture is revealed)
61-Rasool Allah - Messenger of God (used to refer to Prophet Muhammad)
62-Sahaba - Companions of Prophet. Singular is "Sahabi"
63-Sahih - "Sound in isnad." A technical attribute applied to the "isnad" of a hadith
64-Salaam - Peace. An abbreviated version of the Islamic greeting
65-Salaat - Prayer
66-SAW - (Salla Allahu Alaihi Wa Sallam.) Peace Be Upon Him
67-Sawm/Siyam - Fasting
68-Seerah/Sirah - History of the Prophet's life
69-Shahadah - Bearing witness that there is no god but Allah and that Muhammad is His Messenger.
70-Shari'ah - Divine Law
71-Sheikh - Scholar (or any elder and/or respected man)
72-Shirk - Associating partners (e.g. helpers, other gods) with Allah
73-Shura - Consultation among Muslims
74-Subhan Allah - "Glory be to God"
75-Sunna/Sunnah - Tradition of the Prophet
76-Surah/Sura - A Chapter in the Qur'an
78-Tafsir - Interpretation
79-Tawraat - The scripture sent down to Prophet Musa (Moses).
80-Ulama - Religious scholars
81-Umma - Nation, community.
82-Ustadh - Teacher
83-Wassalaam - And peace. It means "goodbye"
84-Zakat - Required charity.

Source:- FW

Marriage in Islam (Full Explanation)

                                                Bismillaahir-Rahmoonir-Roheem

Marriage is a Sunnah that is strongly recommended. Muslims are encouraged to marry as it is regarded as half of one’s deen. As with everything in life, Islam has given us guidance on how to marry, what to look out for in a potential spouse and who to marry. This article will be focusing on who you cannot marry.

True, there are a lot of fish in the sea, but there are some fish you must not catch! Not to worry, these fish are not many. Knowing who you cannot marry also helps you know your mahram. Mahram are the people you are permanently forbidden from marrying due to blood or marriage ties.

The people Muslims are not allowed to marry are divided into 2 broad groups.

1.      Permanent prohibition

2.      Temporary prohibition

Permanent prohibition

These are the people a Muslim is permanently forbidden from marrying. These are also called his/her mahram. A Muslim woman is allowed to uncover in front of these people and does not have to wear hijab. This category is further sub-divided into 3;

a.       Blood relatives

b.      In-law based relationships

c.       Foster relationships

Blood relatives

These are people prohibited to marry because of the blood relationship with them. Allah prohibited marriage to the following women [1];

·         Mother – this also includes every woman that was a direct cause of your birth like your paternal and maternal grandmothers, great-grandmothers, great great grandmothers and upwards.

·         Sister – this includes your half-sisters and step sisters. Half-sisters are the ones you share a parent with, i.e. you have the same mother or father. While step sisters are the ones you don’t share any parent with e.g. your father married a widow who already had a daughter, you don’t share the same father or mother with that girl so she’s your step sister.

·         Daughter – this includes every woman whose birth was a directly caused by you like your granddaughter, great granddaughter and downwards.

·         Mother’s Sisters (maternal aunts) – this also includes your grandmother’s sisters from both mother and father’s sides (i.e. grandaunts) and upwards.

·         Father’s Sisters (paternal aunts) – this also includes your grandfathers’ sisters from both mother and father’s sides and upwards.

·         Brothers’ daughters (nieces) – this also includes your nieces daughters and downwards.

·         Sisters’ daughters (nieces) – this also includes your nieces daughters and downwards.

In-law Relationships

These are people prohibited to marry because they have marriage ties with some of your family members.

·         Father’s other wives i.e. your step mothers[2]

·         Sons’ wives (daughters-in-law)

·         Wives’ mothers (mothers-in-law)

·         Wives’ daughters from other men (i.e. your step daughters) – this prohibition holds only after consummation with their mothers. If the mother is divorced or dies before the marriage was consummated, her daughter (from another man) is lawful for you to marry.

Foster Relationships

Foster mothers and foster fathers are taken as real mothers and fathers when it comes to marriage laws; hence, all the people listed under the Blood Relativescategory are also listed here.[3] A foster mother is the woman (human being) who breastfed you 5 times while you were below 2 years. While a foster father is the one who caused the milk to flow from that foster mother. The present husband of the woman isn’t always the foster father as she might have re-married after the one who impregnated her (caused the milk to flow) divorced her or died.

‘Aa’ishah narrated: “When the Qur’an was first revealed, the number of breast-feedings that would make a child a relative (mahram) was ten, then this was abrogated and replaced with the number of five which is well-known.”[4]

Umm Salamah said: The Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said: “The only breastfeeding that creates the relationship of mahram is that which fills the stomach from the breast, before weaning.”[5]

During the time of the Prophet (ﷺ) 2 people were married and a slave woman came to say she breastfed both of them. The Prophet (ﷺ) nullified the marriage even though they already had kids. [6]

The daughter of Hamzah (the Prophet’s uncle) became his niece (instead of his cousin) because the same woman breastfed the Prophet and Hamzah. Hence they were like brothers. [7]

In summary, the conditions for foster mother are;

·         She must be a human being, not an animal. If a baby drinks an animal’s milk, the animal does not become its foster mother.

·         The child must be below 2 years. If a husband drinks his wife’s milk, she doesn’t become his foster mother.

·         The suckling must be done a minimum of five known times to the child’s fill. If the child was not satisfied in any of the suckling or was fed less than 5 times, then the woman does not qualify as a foster mother.

Temporary Prohibitions

These are people prohibited to marry temporarily because of some conditions. Once those conditions are removed, marriage to the person becomes lawful.

a.       Wives’ Sisters – Allah makes it forbidden to marry a woman and her sister at the same time [1] i.e. you cannot marry your sister-in-law. But if the woman is divorced or dies, then her sister becomes lawful to marry. This prohibition also extends to her aunts and nieces.

b.      Non-Muslims – Allah has prohibited Muslims from marrying non-Muslims. [8]Once any reverts to Islam, they become lawful to marry. The exception to this are the Jewish and Christian women lawful for Muslim men to marry on the condition that they are virgins. [9]

c.       One who commits zina – Allah has prohibited marrying a Muslim who commits zina. [10] This is temporary until the person repents.

d.      A Muslim man who has 4 wives is temporarily not allowed to marry. Allah has placed the maximum number lawful for a man as 4. If one of his wives dies or is divorced, then he may marry another.

e.       A Muslim in the state of Ihram during Hajj or Umrah is temporarily not allowed to marry till he/she leaves the state of Ihram. This is because the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said “A muhrim must neither marry himself, arrange the marriage of another one, nor should he make the proposal of marriage.” [11]

f.       Every married woman is temporarily forbidden to marry and be married till she is widowed or divorced. [12]

g.      Women in their iddah – Allah has also prohibited women temporarily from marriage till they complete their iddah period. [13]

Now that we know the fish that are not permissible in the sea, every other person apart from all these are permissible for marriage. May Allah grant us spouses that will be the coolness of our eyes. Aammeen.

References

1.      An-Nisa’a 4:23

2.      An-Nisa’a 4:22

3.      Sahih Bukhari: Book 7, Volume 62, Hadith 166

Source:- FW