Love doesn't guarantee the success of a relationship.

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"I have discovered that love doesn't guarantee the success of a relationship.

Love cannot help you stick to one person all years round, and on the other hand, cheating isn't always a product of not loving your partner.

In fact, loving someone doesn't guarantee not falling in love with any other person.

Relationships work out mostly because of our head not our heart, it work out because of our emotional maturity, empathetic intelligence and self discipline because time will come when you'll see more beautiful, handsome, romantic, intelligent, sexy, rich, curvy and God fearing people than the one you're in a relationship with. 

In those times, love will not help you, self control will help you, emotional intelligence will come to your rescue, commitment will keep you going. 

With those characteristics, no matter how you feel for someone else, the person you're committed to will rank first in your life.

You think happily married people don't see better people than the ones they married?

You think they don't feel funny sometimes?

You think they don't catch feelings?

They do!

But understanding that commitment is greater than feelings is the great arsenal that do destroy that impulse.

You can fall in love with anyone, but building a relationship takes absolutely more than what attracted you to them.

It takes more than love.

We are too fond of loving when it's convenient, when it's sweet.

We are too fond of loving when love is there but that can only last for just the first 3-6 months of the relationship.

After then, you'll realize that the feelings have dropped, it's now your responsibility to make it work, not love's responsibility.

Relationships cannot be readymade.

You have to build it and it's never always about love, it requires commitment, it requires intelligence.
On the long run in marriages, it's not just love that keeps them together forever, it's determination and commitment.

Everyone fall in love, it takes little or no effort to do that. But staying in love?

Building a relationship?

Only the strong and committed ones do that.

That's why we must find that one person and commit to that one, Discipline yourself, bridle your emotions.

Building a relationship is hard work, it's like building a career, It's like pursuing a dream.

It's always tough, at some point it will be so bitter but you can make it work by putting your heads together, you can scale through the trying time by being focus and committed.

The kind of love that attracts two people together is not the kind of love that will keep them together.

Be emotionally strong!

Be self disciplined.

Sticking to one person is not natural, you must develop yourself to do that.

It works great and perfect with people of like minds, people of the same belief, people that share the same school of thought.

10 Important Things Single Ladies Should Know.

10 ADVICE FOR ALL THE SINGLE LADIES OUT THERE:

1. Don't be in a hurry to move out
of your parent’s house.

2. Don't wait for a man before you
start living. You can live a fulfilled
life as a single woman.

3. Stay away from alcohol. It has
killed others and you are not
special.

4. Don't entertain wrong numbers
calling you, especially late in the
night. It's not the right way to
find a lover.

5. Develop a healthy eating habit.
Always take breakfast and avoid
sweets.

6. Dress well: impression counts.
People will judge you by the way
you dress even before they talk to
you.

7. Don't use sex as proof of love.
Sex is not a proof for love; he'll
still leave you after all that sweet
sex.

8. Don't marry someone because
of money; else you'll become one
of his possessions.

9. Add value to yourself, get a
career. Don't be fooled that a man
will solve all your problems.

10. Respect yourself depending
on your dressing code. This will
also show what you come from,
where you come from and many
people out there will respect you
because of your being descent.

Read: Patience Saves Alot!

Gentleness & Softness are Always Excellent. They Bring About Unity, Love & Peace.
On the contrary, Harshness Brings About Disunity & Instability.

For husband & wife to live in harmony, they must admire & be merciful to one another. Further, she must respect him, & he must be kind to her.

Your husband deserves to be respected. Be obedient in good,  polite, keep on smiling, take care of his desire & stomach & avoid suspicion.

Your dearest wife deserves massive kindness. Be kind to her in everything: Feed her; cloth her; educate her; accommodate her; & pardon her.

Your Wife is neither a slave nor a housekeeper. She is your companion that partakes in division of labour with you to establish an ideal family.

Conflict is inevitable in marriage. Kindness, fair hearing, forgiveness, justice & softness bring about stability & harmony in marital life.

Wife is the shepherd of d household. Her responsibility is a huge one. She is an institution that produces all scholars & pious leaders globally.
Are you looking for a faultless wife? A wife that can't offend you at all? If yes, then no one in this world, but rather in Paradise. Be kind please.

The Prophet ص would say, "The best among you is he who is kindest to his wife & I'm kindest to my wife". No so-called Feminism can beat this.

As wife, your husband is neither a messenger nor an aide. He deserves your massive respect for his spending, etc. Imagine your life without him?

The attitude of "I am always right" by both husband & wife, brings about chaos & pandemonium in marital life. No one of you is infallible, please.

Both husband & wife must be convinced that to err is human. They must be ready to serve as a mirror to one another. Accept when corrected.

Wives naturally, like to be praised for- their adornment, marital relationship & cooking. Always remember to say to her "you are superb & Unique".

Satan tries to be a stakeholder in our marital life. If one spouse is ANGRY, the other must not be ANGRY. Otherwise, Satan has defeated both.

Husband & wife should try to be talking to one another with a Smiling Face. It is an act of Ibadah, romantic could lower stress level. Smile always.

Marital life is a source of tranquillity & peace. It is also the best pleasure of this world. Married couple should always try to achieve that.

RIGHTEOUS!
Whomever is blessed with a righteous wife, completed half of his religion, so let him fear Almighty with regard to d other half.

Always say to your wife: “If you see me angry, calm me down, & if I see you angry I will calm you down, otherwise we can't live together honourably”.

For a successful marriage, married couple are urged to control their tongues, & avoid foul speaking by using them freely against each other.

Harsh tongue & aggressive tone will not change your spouse- wife or husband. Rather, you should use kind & gentle words, which is act of charity.

Husband & Wife should try to keep their secret, confidential. It must remain within their boundaries. It should not be exposed to outsiders.

The best solution for any marital problem is through ENDURANCE & GENTLENESS. Words & Decisions taken in ANGER & HIGH EMOTIONS are rash & wrong.

Unsolicited & unexpected gift strengthens LOVE & MERCY between married couple. Try to surprise your wife/husband, from time to time with nice gifts.

Married couple should avoid undermining the roles of each other in building the family. The roles of each can't be played by the other effectively and efficiently.

For married couple, there must be moments of happiness & sadness. For happiness both should be grateful, while for sadness, be patient & pray.

May Allah save our marriage at this age-of-divorce.

You Started Developing Romantic Love With Your Best Friend, What Should You Do? [MATURE MINDS ONLY]

You are a good friend and you enjoy your friendship. One day you find that you have begun having different feelings for your friend.
You like him/her more than a friend and you are developing romantic love. What should you do?
You want to tell your friend about your feelings but you are scared of losing your friendship.
You continue thinking about that and the more you think the more you get confused. The facts is that, emotions are like that.
After lot of deliberation, you have decided that the feelings of love are true. Should you tell your friend? What if he/she does not reciprocate?
What will happen to the friendship?

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You Started Developing Romantic Love With Your Best Friend, What Should You Do? [MATURE MINDS ONLY]

You are a good friend and you enjoy your friendship. One day you find that you have begun having different feelings for your friend.
You like him/her more than a friend and you are developing romantic love. What should you do?
You want to tell your friend about your feelings but you are scared of losing your friendship.
You continue thinking about that and the more you think the more you get confused. The facts is that, emotions are like that.
After lot of deliberation, you have decided that the feelings of love are true. Should you tell your friend? What if he/she does not reciprocate?
What will happen to the friendship?

Source:- arowolonation.tk 

Please leave your comments below.